What should I ask my brother or sister?

Ask what they remember about your parents, which childhood memory they would tell a stranger, and what they think you have never understood about them.

We remember things differently. Is that a problem?

No — it is the point. Keeping both versions side by side is more honest than agreeing on one.

How do we collect the answers?

Go Family Story emails each sibling three questions a week by private link — they answer with a free account, no subscription needed — and keeps every answer in one shared family archive.

Questions to ask your sibling

Siblings grow up in the same house and remember two different families. These questions are for comparing notes while you both still can — about your parents, your childhood, and the adult your brother or sister became.

Questions to ask your sibling about their own life

Ask these directly. Most of them are also worth answering yourself.

1.What was our house like when we were small?
2.What did our parents seem like to you then?
3.What have you forgiven that you thought you never would?
4.What did we do together when nobody was watching?
5.What did we fight about, and who usually won?
6.What trouble did we get into together?
7.What sound makes you stop whatever you are doing?
8.What was mealtime like in our house?
9.What did holidays look like for us?
10.What is the funniest thing that ever happened between us?
11.What phrase did you get from your parents without noticing?
12.When did we grow apart, if we did, and why?
13.What brought us back together?
14.What was the hardest thing our family went through?
15.What has got easier with age?
16.How did that change you?
17.What did our parents give you that you carry?
18.What did they get wrong, in your view?
19.What do you want playing in the room when you are remembered?
20.What do you wish we had done differently as brother and sister?
21.What do you want our children to know about us?
22.What family story must never be lost?
23.What stories were told again and again in your family?
24.What was your place in the family, and did you choose it?
25.What did we fight about most?
26.What did we do together that nobody else knew about?
27.What is the naughtiest thing you ever did?
28.What was hardest about growing up in our family?
29.When did we stop being children together?
30.What changed between us when we left home?
31.What did you spend your first wages on?
32.What do you think our childhood did to you?
33.What do you wish we had talked about years ago?
34.What do you want from us as brothers or sisters now?
35.What was your first date like?
36.What do you hope our children know about each other?
37.What do you want us to keep going in this family?
38.What did our parents worry about that we never saw?
39.What did you want to give your children that you never had?
40.Who was the favourite, and be honest?
41.What did you take the blame for?
42.What did we do when the grown-ups were out?
43.What is the biggest risk you took?
44.What was our worst fight about?
45.Did we ever really settle it?

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Questions to answer about your sibling

You have known this person longer than almost anyone. Write down what you remember before the details go.

46.What were they like as a child?
47.What did the two of you do together growing up?
48.How would you describe them to someone who never met them?
49.What do you fight about?
50.What did they get away with that you never could?
51.What do they protect you from?
52.What was the best trip or day out you shared?
53.What trouble do you get into together?
54.What is your house like with both of you in it?
55.What did they know about you that your parents never did?
56.How do you make up afterwards?
57.How were they at school, and with friends?
58.What did they want to be when they grew up?
59.How did they change once they left home?
60.What makes them soften instantly?
61.What does family occasions look like with them there?
62.What does the two of you go through together that nobody else understands?
63.How are they with your parents as adults?
64.How do they show love without saying it?
65.What are you proudest of about them?

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Common questions

What should I ask my brother or sister?: Ask what they remember about your parents, which childhood memory they would tell a stranger, and what they think you have never understood about them.
We remember things differently. Is that a problem?: No — it is the point. Keeping both versions side by side is more honest than agreeing on one.
How do we collect the answers?: Go Family Story emails each sibling three questions a week by private link — they answer with a free account, no subscription needed — and keeps every answer in one shared family archive.